On the Heart
A friend shared a paragraph from C.S. Lewis’s The Four Loves the other day and it’s stuck with me:
“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be br
oken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.
Love is a funny thing. Being in college, you love lots of things, whether you love what you’re learning in class, or a movie you saw, your friends, or your boyfriend/girlfriend, or family. We love fleetingly, deeply, and quickly. This will always be a part of ourlives. This love will bring us joy and happiness, but it also causes pain, suffering, and sadness. In those unhappy times, we are faced with choices that can be hard and make us bitter and resentful. “Why love at all?” That’s the question that we might ask.
There may not be the perfect answer, but I believe that to love is to know the Lord. God is love. We go through these things because the Lord reveals Himself andHis plans through the love we give and receive. Sometimes it is tough love, and sometimes it is a love that makes us want to jump up and down with jubilation. All of these feelings and emotions are to help us learn who the Lord is and what He has planned for us. It’s hard, I know, I struggle with trust and patience everyday. But, we must learn to be vulnerable and take risks. We were made in the image and likeness of Him, which means He created us to love. Without love, our lives would be much more painful than they are when we love and become vulnerable to others.
I always hear the quote, “it is better to have loved at all and lost than to never have loved at all.” We must take risks and chances with our heart in order to live and be human. Our lives are about relationships with other people and giving them the love they deserve and receiving that kind of love in return. No matter what we do, we must not be afraid. I write this to tell you that you are not alone. You are loved and deserve love that is deep and beautiful and crazy and spontaneous and wonderful. The Lord wants this for all of us. He gives this to us everyday through our friends and family and passions. Seek it out and open your heart to the world. Let it be tossed around and beat up; the Lord will repair it. Don’t look back and love with all your heart.
“We need others physically, emotionally, intellectually; we need them if we are to knowanything. Even ourselves.”